Have you ever questioned yourself or wondered about your worth because of how someone responds to you? You may have heard the quote by Charles Spurgeon that says, “The same sun that melts wax hardens clay.” I’m not sure why it has taken me so long to realize that how a person responds says more about them than it does about me— or you— unless, of course, everyone is responding to us the same way. If that is the case, we have to ask ourselves what we’re doing to cause the same effect and then seek to change. Maybe we’re like acid and burning everyone; or prickly like a cactus, and causing people to keep their distance. But if different people are responding differently, just as the same sun that melts wax and hardens clay and also bleaches clothes and causes plants to grow and produce vibrant colors, how a person responds says more about them and what they’re made of, than about you or me and what we’re worth. Have you ever smiled at one person and had them smile back, but then have another person frown? Same smile, different response.
While a negative or positive response may reveal what a person is made of, it may also simply reveal their state of being at the time. Are they tired, hungry, depressed, overwhelmed, lonely, aging or hormonal? Or do they consistently respond a certain way? And is their response a result of the condition of their heart or of how they were molded and how they feel about themselves? What a person thinks about themselves will play a part in what they do and how they respond, but their response to us still doesn’t determine our worth. Their response reveals something about them.
An elderly friend once lamented with tears in her eyes that her son rarely acknowledges her birthday. But her daughters do. So does that mean she’s worth less because her son fails to remember her on her birthday? Absolutely not. It says more about him than it does about her. Once she realized that, although she is still sad because both are missing out on a blessing, she doesn’t feel as worthless.
The Son of God loves you and me and thinks we were worth dying for, even when we were indifferent to Him or even hated Him. Just as my elderly friend’s loving response reveals something about her as well as how much she values her son despite his indifference, God’s loving kindness to us reveals something about Him and how much we are worth in His eyes.
May 14th, 2013 at 9:31 pm
Some people are blind to a person’s worth, but as you stated the problem is with them, they choose to see the faults or inadequacies of a person, which are often based on theirs or others expectations. I praise God that He looks at the heart and our desire to be more like His Son and not our failures and faults – Our life is not futile, our failures are not fatal, and our death is not final. (Max Lucado)
May 14th, 2013 at 9:36 pm
Love the quote! Yes, expectations play a huge role in how we and others respond. Sometimes the expectations are reasonable, and sometimes they are not. I praise God, too, that He looks at the heart and shows us such wondrous grace and mercy! Thank you, Randell! 🙂
May 15th, 2013 at 11:29 am
This was one of the best post’s I have read to date!! Stunning!!!! Bless you Rene xxx
May 15th, 2013 at 12:30 pm
Wow, thank you, Geraldine! Knowing you were blessed blesses me! ((hugs))
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May 15th, 2013 at 8:28 pm
Thank you for sharing my post. I am honored. 🙂
May 18th, 2013 at 8:01 am
Very very VERY true. Blessings to you for encouraging others!
May 18th, 2013 at 8:21 am
Thank you so much, Heather, for being a blessing and encouragement to me! 🙂
May 18th, 2013 at 8:24 am
🙂 – you are living out the Jesus life. Run after Him and others will follow sweet friend. Just as they do they will continue to see His light in you.
May 18th, 2013 at 6:32 pm
So much truth here. God bless you today!
May 18th, 2013 at 9:40 pm
Thank you so much for visiting and being a blessing! 🙂
May 19th, 2013 at 3:03 am
I have nominated you! Thank you for being the blessed wise lady you are! May the Lord richly bless and keep you always!
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May 19th, 2013 at 10:51 pm
Thank you, Geraldine. I do not take your blessings lightly, and I am honored by the nomination.
May 20th, 2013 at 10:45 pm
This is really good. I needed to read this. It puts into focus a situation that has been thrust upon me. Thank you so much!
May 20th, 2013 at 10:51 pm
I am so glad it met a need. Thank you!
May 20th, 2013 at 10:55 pm
Yes, and I thank you for pointing that out. I need to be reminded often and you’re just the sweet heart to do it. Love.
May 20th, 2013 at 11:00 pm
Aww, thank you, Sandra! ((hugs))
May 22nd, 2013 at 2:49 am
Wonderful post Rene, we all need to see that we are priceless and once we start loving ourselves and accept ourselves, it is easier with other relationships. We are worht more than we know. And God loves us what and however we are!
May 22nd, 2013 at 7:21 am
Thank you, Ute! I have been blessed by your blog’s positive encouragements and personal stories as you seek to bring a smile to others. 🙂
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May 23rd, 2013 at 8:02 pm
Thank you, Heather, for the nomination! I am very honored! 🙂
May 26th, 2013 at 8:08 pm
You betcha! 🙂
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April 26th, 2014 at 7:40 pm
I am so happy I came across your profile on The Commons yesterday! I have been also been blogging for a while and have found this course helpful with some of the basics I have overlooked. 🙂 I really enjoyed this post. I have been struggling with a family member for years that responds exclusively to me, very negatively. This post was helpful and reminds me to keep praying about it. Thank you. 🙂
April 26th, 2014 at 9:49 pm
Aww, thank you so much. I am so happy to know you were blessed and strengthened by it. Thank you for visiting! 🙂