Have you ever gotten really angry and done something stupid only to regret it later? Or have you ever wondered why you got so angry in the first place, and then became angry at yourself? Why do we get so mad sometimes? James 4:1-3 basically says we get angry and fight with each other when we don’t get what we want. Wah…
“A man is only as big as the things that make him mad.” —American proverb
Righteous anger over injustices is one thing, but what makes you mad? Big stuff or petty, insignificant things?
“Anger is often merely evidence of insecurity in life.” —Chip Ingram
“Men are like steel. When they lose their temper, they lose their worth.” —Chuck Norris
Ok, I just had to add that quote by Chuck Norris, so sue me!
“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing”. —Will Rogers
Do you ever run to an addiction like shopping, eating, drinking, or drugs after getting mad? S.M. Davis, an American pastor, once asked a group of people who had a problem with drugs, “’How many of you ever yielded to some addiction after getting angry?’ Many hands went up. Why? Because once anger is displayed the walls are down. You are vulnerable.”
Proverbs 25:8 says, “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”
So what can we do?
An Argentinian proverb says, “If you have a tail of straw, then keep away from the fire.” Basically, one of the things we can do is to try to avoid situations that make us angry. Stay away from angry people as best we can. Proverbs 22:24, 25 say, “Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself.”
And of course, it’s not just men. Proverbs 21:19 says, “ It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” Ladies, is your man constantly going out into the wilderness? Without you?”
Aristotle said, “For where it is in our power to act, it is also in our power not to act.”
Confucius, a Chinese philospher said, “He who conquers himself is the mightest warrior.”
A Japanese proverb says, “Control of mental conduct, not skill, is the sign of a matured samurai.”
Thoughts often lead to actions. We can take the time to think things through, instead of merely reacting. Is what we perceive true, or is it a lie? Is life really never fair, or are we just feeling insecure? Are we really as mature as we think we are, or are we just a bunch of babies?