Wisdom Wednesday: Just Kidding!

Photo credit:  Vivek Chugh - www.sxc.hu/photo/953211

Photo credit: Vivek Chugh – http://www.sxc.hu/photo/953211

Have you ever said something to someone then said, “I’m just joking,” but you knew there was really some truth in what you’d said? Or do you know someone who pokes fun at people under the guise of joking when they really do mean what they say?

“Said in sport, meant in earnest.” —German proverb

Dick Clark, an American radio and television host said, “Humor is always based on a modicum of truth. Have you ever heard a joke about a father-in-law?”

“Out of a joke comes a truth.” —Japanese proverb

I love when people tease me as long as it’s kind and funny and not meant to belittle or hurt. Most jokes are funny because they have a certain amount of truth in them, but jokes cease to be funny when said to get a laugh at the expense of another or to shame and manipulate.

A young friend who loves to joke around chose Proverbs 26:18, 19 as a life verse to remind himself to be kind. It says that someone who lies to a friend and then says, “I was only joking,” is like a mad man shooting a lethal weapon.

A German proverb says, “Play not with a man till you hurt him, nor jest till you shame him.”

“Excess of wit may oftentimes beguile; jests are not always pardon’d by a smile.” —Poor Richard

“The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.” —Jim Rohn

“Be silly, be honest, be kind.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

About Rene Yoshi

Just a transplanted Okinawan-French Southern girl with a wee bit o' Irish, sharing photography and what I'm learning about spiritual things, including putting off legalism and religious traditions, and embracing God's matchless love, tender mercy, and amazing grace! View all posts by Rene Yoshi

10 responses to “Wisdom Wednesday: Just Kidding!

  • bennetta faire

    This is something that hits home for me–I grew up in a family where, “I was only joking” was said in an offended tone, to both excuse their insensitivity, and point out that I was the one who needed to change, toughen up.

    • Rene Yoshi

      Yes, people who use jesting as a cover to say what they really mean, often blame and shame the the other person(s) for expressing being hurt by it. They follow, “I was only kidding,” by something like, “Geez, lighten up! What’s your problem?”

      I’m so sorry you endured that in your home growing up, but I’m glad the Lord is healing you and created you to be such a blessing and break the chain of that generational sin. Love you, Sis. ((hugs))

  • Randell Bell

    Yes, there is a fine line between silly and foolish, and kidding and deceitful. Say what you mean and mean what you say is something we should all practice when dealing with others. Jest to cover a hurtful comment is like a silencer to cover a gunshot, and both can be hurtful or deadly. Jesus gave us a warning concerning our words; Matt. 12:34 for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. 35 A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.

  • Tienny

    Rene, I know how it feels when people says they are joking after the humour. It is very hurting 😦

  • Toni Sprandel

    Great post with much truth! Thank you! 🙂

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