A few nights ago my daughter and I watched a movie, and something one of the characters said caught my attention. I think it can apply to more than just the obvious situation, don’t you? The main character’s best friend said:
“Don’t choose the better guy, choose the guy that’s gonna make you the better girl.” —Trish in This Means War
So who do you want to be? What do you want to be? Are your current life choices keeping you from being the person you really are deep down inside? Are current relationships with people and organizations helping you grow or keeping you stunted?
“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” —C.S. Lewis, author
I’m not talking about being a snob. I’m talking about the people you include in your inner ring, your most intimate of friends from whom you seek advice and with whom there is mutual benefit and not just a one-sided relationship.
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.” —Proverbs 27:17
I’m also not talking about micromanaging our lives, and I know sometimes making the best choice isn’t always easy. After all, we’re human, and we make mistakes… sometimes, big ones. We cannot allow fear to keep us from making decisions either, because as Harvey Cox, an American theologian once said, “Not to decide is to decide.”
Don’t allow apathy to make the decision for you. Choose between what will keep you where you are or what will help you reach your goals.
Don’t just sit there. God cannot steer a car that isn’t moving.
“Are circumstances driving you, or are you controlling your circumstances?” —K. Scott Bonovich, author
It’s okay to say no.
Don’t kill yourself trying to fit into someone else’s mold. Do you want to be like them, or do you want to be you and who you believe God created you to be?
I recently made the decision to become a firefighter, and I am pursuing an education to become an EMT. I have been surprised by those who have been supportive from the beginning and those who are still not supportive to this day. One of my family members remarked that it seemed like the fire department had chosen me instead of my choosing the fire department. I assured her that it was my choice, and I worked hard studying the apparatus and equipment so that I could earn my shield and begin riding to assist and gain practical experience. Like anyone who has ever experienced great success, sometimes I had to decide between playing and working. I am grateful for those who also chose to work by taking the time to teach me. We played afterward.
“What are you prepared to do?” —Jimmy Malone in The Untouchables
How badly do you want it? What will it take to get it? Who do you want to be? It starts with a vision and then one decision after another.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” —Socrates, a character in Way of the Peaceful Warrior
Happy New Year!!
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January 1st, 2015 at 10:06 am
Excellent post and advice – I needed to hear – it deserves honest consideration 🙂 and I support your FD/EMT
January 1st, 2015 at 10:08 am
Thank you, Randell. I know you do.
January 1st, 2015 at 10:15 am
January 1st, 2015 at 10:15 am
You are welcome, Tienny!
January 2nd, 2015 at 12:50 pm
January 1st, 2015 at 11:52 am
Rene, as usual a wonderful, thought provoking and inspiring post. I wish you all the best in your journey to become an EMT. You have the spirit of a healer, something that shines in your face and words – even through the internet. Blessed will be the ones to whom you come to their aide. Looking forward to your images and thoughts in 2015. Your comments through the year are so appreciated. All the best to you and yours in 2015, Catherine.
January 1st, 2015 at 12:11 pm
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. Happy New Year and blessings to you!
January 1st, 2015 at 12:18 pm
Great post, Rene. You’re so right about wisdom, I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. I’m not very wise so I “hang out”with people like you 🙂
Happy New Year!
January 1st, 2015 at 12:23 pm
[chuckle] You have a lot of wisdom, Bill! That’s why I hang out with you! On your blog!
January 1st, 2015 at 4:57 pm
Thanks for this great post, Rene. Just showed it to my kids … everyone loved it 🙂 Love hanging out with people like you!!! Have a wonderful and Happy New Year!
January 1st, 2015 at 7:41 pm
Awww, I am honored, Heidi, that you shared it with your kids. I love hanging out with people like you, too! Have a Happy and Blessed New Year!!
January 2nd, 2015 at 9:28 am
Happy New Year my friend. I do hope 2015 will be good for you. ❤
January 2nd, 2015 at 11:02 am
Thank you, Ralph! Happy New Year and blessings to you as well! xoxo
January 9th, 2015 at 6:52 am
Dear sweet sister in Christ, Rene..
Wonderful full post. Happy belated New Year to you and your family. Have blessed and wonderful New Year 🙂
January 9th, 2015 at 6:09 pm
Thank you, Karina! Happy New Year to you and your loved ones as well!
March 30th, 2015 at 8:40 pm
I know I’m very late to the party, but I am happy for you and your decision to pursue this new endeavor. This is very encouraging to me, as I, too, am in a new season and in a new place. I have faith that everything you desire to do through Christ will be accomplished for his glory. Be blessed!
March 31st, 2015 at 2:27 pm
Thank you, Patricia! Encouragement from my sisters and brothers in Christ means a lot to me, because some have not been so supportive and encouraging. To be honest, it makes me want to become one of ‘The Dones’, someone who loves God with a heart to continue pursuing Him, but done with church. I know how important Christian fellowship and corporate worship is, so I haven’t given up completely. Anyway, thank you again for your encouragement! I pray that the Lord will continually light your path as you enter a new season and place! ((hugs))
April 6th, 2015 at 10:30 pm
I hope you don’t give up! I can only imagine how difficult it must be, but I truly believe that you will be a shining light and wonderful example of what can be accomplished when you follow God, even when it doesn’t make sense to everybody! Forgive them father for they know not what they do…you remain in my prayers!!
April 6th, 2015 at 11:34 pm
Thank you so much!!