Ok, I know this isn’t a new concept, but a recent firefighter training exercise during one of my Fire 1&2 classes helped me realize how much I didn’t know about something I thought I knew. I already knew, as I’m sure most of you know, that when one of our senses is taken away or limited, we rely on other senses to compensate, but what I didn’t realize was how much I rely on my sight and that I didn’t know my equipment as well as I thought I did. Relying on or focusing on one thing more than others can cause us to miss things in so many areas of our lives, from knowing our equipment, having good leadership skills, to developing and maintaining healthy relationships.
So what was the training exercise? In a nutshell, we had to simulate replacing our air cylinder under no visibility conditions by being blindfolded with all our gear on. Although performing that task while being blindfolded can be challenging, what made it even more challenging was having to do it wearing thick fire gloves. Not only was our sight removed, but our sense of touch was also hindered.
As I thought about the various ways the lesson could be applied, I was reminded of a TV show I’d seen a few times years ago called Dating in the Dark. It was a reality show in which three men and three women entered a pitch black room, sat at a table, and tried to get to know each other quickly. After the brief group meeting, each contestant could invite another contestant to have a one-on-one date, again in a completely dark room. What was interesting was how each person reacted when they were finally allowed to see the one they’d chosen. Some were ecstatic to find they had chosen an extremely attractive person, while others sometimes looked like they wanted to vomit when their date’s physical form was unveiled, even if they loved that person’s personality and other characteristics such as voice, laugh, or touch. I know physical attraction can be a huge factor in having an intimate relationship, but it was sad to watch people being rejected because of the superficial focus. That actually goes both ways; seeing only a person’s attractiveness can cause us to miss both great and ugly character qualities, or it can cause a person to feel like mere ‘arm candy’.
Just as knowing our equipment is important, good leaders know those they lead. When leaders focus primarily on only one or two things, they miss the big picture, and their leadership and team suffer. Good leaders are like good incident commanders, knowing the strengths and limitations of their crew, positioning themselves at a good vantage point to get a good overall view, having good communication skills, and being able to multi-task and delegate to get the job done efficiently. Good leaders are able to lead, because they can see who and where they are leading. Bad leaders think they see and know everything, but they are like the blind leading the blind. Jesus called the religious leaders of His time “blind guides”, because they focused so much on trying to be right with God by following certain rules or having certain beliefs, and trying to be respected and praised by striving to be seen and praised for their good deeds and knowledge, that they missed the most important things… humility, mercy and love.
I don’t claim to see and know everything. I know I have blind spots, too, but I’m learning and trying to see and understand things more clearly and am grateful for lessons and training exercises that help reveal my weaknesses.
October 24th, 2015 at 11:04 am
So very true and insightful. A company I worked for many years ago had a policy for all those accepted for managerial positions. Before you can become management you must first work each department for one whole week. It not only taught the new manager how each dept. was run, but also by whom and the challenges they faced. The manager understood each dept. and the employees knew their managers or dept. heads. Good one Rene. 🙂
October 24th, 2015 at 1:17 pm
What a great idea! Thank you, Randell!
October 24th, 2015 at 11:15 am
Thanks for this 🙂 It is fun to work in different department. I never realize to be so exhausted until my brain is overworked. I’ve been trying to improve my communication skills. How do I so?
October 24th, 2015 at 1:18 pm
Thank you, Tienny! You seem to communicate very well in writing.
October 25th, 2015 at 7:42 am
Rene, thank you. I am still learning and struggling to communicate through writings. At times, my friend wants to pull her hair trying to understand me.
October 24th, 2015 at 8:47 pm
Very true, Rene. I am grateful for people around me who help me navigate through the blind spots (especially the ones real close). Thanks for this great reminder. Hope your day is blessed!
October 24th, 2015 at 10:55 pm
Thank you, Heidi!! Blessings to you, too!
November 9th, 2015 at 7:57 am
A good leader knows his/her limitations and is quick to ask for help. In the case if the fire department the good leader knows to call for support; the poor leaders puts everyone at risk . The good physician knows when to defer to a specialist.
Perhaps a big factor is ego; we don’t like thinking we aren’t as bright as we thought but when reality faces us, do we learn and change our thought pattern or do we dig in and keep making the same errors?
As you aptly evidence, we take little things for granted, build assumptions and the fall/fail when the assumptions are wrong. Lucky for you, hehe, you weren’t in a fire charged emergency changing your bottle. I am sure you are far more proficient now?
Great observations and applications.
November 9th, 2015 at 8:41 am
Thank you so much, Scott, for your added insight and encouragement!