Wisdom Wednesday: Mind Your Own Business

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Have you ever regretted getting involved in someone else’s argument and wished you had minded your own business? Although sometimes it is good to act as a mediator, it is best to do so only when asked, and even then, it is sometimes wise to stay out of it. How do you know when to stay out of an argument when asked? Consider first those who are arguing. If they are generally reasonable and just seem to need another opinion, then inquire about the disagreement. If the disagreement is something that can be settled easily, then it’s probably okay to get involved. Otherwise, it’s probably best to stay out of it. The exception is if you are in authority, e.g. a parent training young children how to handle disagreements, because teaching them is your business. But sometimes, allowing your children to work out their own disagreements under your supervision as part of the training is also best. The point, though, is not to invite trouble.

“When you invite trouble, it’s usually quick to accept.” —H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Who is always meddling into other men’s affairs, leads a dangerous life.” —Spanish proverb

“When you live in reaction, you give your power away. Then you get to experience what you gave your power to.” —N. Smith

“Don’t get your knickers in a knot. Nothing is solved and it just makes you walk funny.” —Kathryn Carpenter

“It is easier to keep out of a quarrel than to get out of one.” —Latin proverb

“The go-between wears out a thousand sandals.” —Japanese proverb

“Meddle not in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup!” —Unknown paraphrase of a J.R.R. Tolkien quote

 

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About Rene Yoshi

Just a transplanted Okinawan-French Southern girl with a wee bit o' Irish, sharing photography and what I'm learning about spiritual things, including putting off legalism and religious traditions, and embracing God's matchless love, tender mercy, and amazing grace! View all posts by Rene Yoshi

20 responses to “Wisdom Wednesday: Mind Your Own Business

  • Tienny The Storyteller

    For me, I choose to go away when people are arguing

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  • Ralph

    When I was a very young soldier, who was paid less than a church mouse, a group of us were in a bar one Saturday night and this old woman was beating the hell out of an old man with her hand bag. We took him outside away from his tormentor, followed a few minutes later by the old woman who started hitting us with her handbag shouting, “Leave my Tom alone !”. Tom then turned to her and in a quiet voice said, ” Let’s go home Pet !”. And off the toddled arm in arm down the road. We later found out that they had been fighting for years in the same bar.
    A few weeks later we returned to the same bar and saw Tom sitting in the corner with tears in his eyes as his wife had died that week. We paid his bar bill. ❤

  • Randell Bell

    Wise counsel Rene and I love the Proverbs. It is sometimes hard to stay out of a quarrel when we believe we can help, but very often our help is just another log on the fire. That is not to say we can’t or shouldn’t, but that we assess the situation and ourselves carefully before interjecting our own point of view. Jesus said for us to examine ourselves first before pointing out another’s problems. In other words don’t try to put out someone else’s fire when your bucket is full of gasoline. I love the Dragon Quote.
    Matthew 7:1-5
    “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

  • mommyofthebay

    Really awesome quotes!

  • hubertrondeau

    Rene, That Dog almost scared me away!! Great post, hope its okay I laughed at the dragon and the knikers proverbs.

    funny about PTSD I forgot that I used to quote proverbs 26:17 often when speaking with folks who liked to get involved in everybody business

    Not everyone has taken a dog by the ears, but we can all imagine what it would be like

    • Rene Yoshi

      LOL… I’m sorry about the scary dog photo. She is my daughter’s dog, and although she looks vicious in the photo, she and I were actually playing. She’s really quite gentle when she plays, even with my baby granddaughters.

      I’m sorry to hear you have PTSD. I can’t imagine what it must be like. However, funny thing about getting older is I forget stuff, too. 😉

      Thank you for visiting!

      • hubertrondeau

        my pleasure Rene, BTW Im part french too, actually both parts,head to toe.

        Im here because I live a pretty lonely life, PTSD is probably the smaller part of my handicap I have had Fibromyalgia for more years than I can remember lol

        Raised in a pretty nasty family and Bless the Lord I think I’m here for the long haul

        I visited your Blogger site as well but couldn’t comment, I used to have about 4 blogger blogs and 5 word press blogs but in my brokenness and despair I had deleted them all. Maybe I can hold onto this one

      • Rene Yoshi

        LOL… You are very witty. I hope you hold on, too.

      • hubertrondeau

        Thanks Rene feel free to browse my writing, now that I Remember how to do this, and how to find new friends on wordpress I will probably begin to post some of my work again.

      • Rene Yoshi

        Good. I’m glad to hear that. Thank you. 🙂

      • hubertrondeau

        You are welcome 🙂

        I just posted I will find my way Home think I will see if I can dig up another 1 or 2 as well

  • EAT ALL FRESH

    Hahaha.. love the proverbs.. Good post. Its very wise to keep your nose out of something, like you said unless someone asks you.

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